Are You Being Seduced?
We are constantly being offered products and services that make us feel better. Deodorant to make us irresistible to the opposite sex, make-up to improve our self-worth, a luxury holiday so we can relax. These seem like good investments of our hard earned money but, in reality it's short lived. The initial excitement of the purchase gives way to questions as to why it hasn't worked for us and we're left feeling lacking and needing to buy more and try harder.
Any time we buy something just to immediately make us feel better - whether it's an indulgence to get us through the day or compensate ourselves for some hardship, a fantasy that enables us to zone out or a product that promises something we know in our hearts is not possible, we are being seduced. Whilst these may be things we can afford and we might think that no harm's done, every time we reach for our fix, we further embed a habit that keeps us stuck.
How about recognising the truth of our situation? What is it we're attempting to get away from, to stop thinking and feeling? What do we fear would happen if we didn't have those glasses of wine at the end of the day? What story are we telling ourselves? What are the facts?
When I meet people who are in jobs they hate, they have usually built up a whole host of habits and rituals that keep them going through the day. 'The commute is okay because I listen to my music through my high spec headset, I can get good coffee in the building , I meet my friends and have a good moan about work over a drink, I get to go shopping at the weekend, zone out with a box set and of course have fabulous holidays.'
Take away the tactics they have developed to 'get by' and their lives are dominated by a job they hate. The mind numbing routine of eat - commute - work- eat (if lucky) - work - commute - zone out - sleep - repeat, isn't really living is it?
When we wake up to the reality of our situation, the prospect of change can be overwhelming. Where do we start? My suggestion is to get external help and hire a Coach. But perhaps you're thinking this is another seduction?
There's a distinction between a seduction and an investment with real growth potential. One day I might buy a latte in a cosy cafe because I'm compensating myself for a journey I'm not enjoying. This would be a short lived seduction, nothing wrong with this unless it stops me reflecting on why I agreed to do that journey and what other options are available.
Another day I might buy a latte and sit in the cafe because it's an environment I find creative, I might do some writing, get some insights or meet a potential business partner. In this situation the latte would be an investment and the money (and time) invested will appreciate in value as the creative seeds I've sown there take shape.
Likewise, the money and time spent on coaching, relevant training courses and learning are great investments. Very few people are able to make the changes they desire swiftly without professional help.
Despite working for the monthly pay check, often people don't feel they have the money to invest in coaching or to do something different with their lives. Consider what you could save if you didn't need or want to spend money on the seductions that keep your current situation 'okay'. What price would you put on living life to the full, having flexibility to put your priorities first and expressing your unique passions in the world? How would investing in that now add value to you and those close to you over time? Surely that's a worthwhile investment?
I look forward to seeing your views on this in the comments box below. To take the first step to explore if coaching is a good investment for you, book a free Life Strategy Coaching session here. The link will take you to my personal diary where you can book a convenient day and time.