Are You An Overthinker?
The first time I heard the term Overthinker was when I went for an alternative health scan. Although I could tell from the tone of the practitioner's voice it wasn't a complement, I was quietly proud. Thinking things through, figuring out problems, asking pertinent questions, researching and connecting information to get the big picture, these are good attributes, aren't they?
My personal/spiritual evolution involved tapping more into my creativity and intuition and I soon found these different ways of being didn't fit well with my brain emphasis. We know how critical thinking can crush creative ideas before they have a chance to develop. Positive thinking, perhaps about all the potential our creation has, also takes us away from the process of creating and dollops a load of standards and expectations on our emerging idea.
In coaching conversations, I tend to access a different place where ideas, questions and reflections seem to come through me. Over the years, I've come to rely on this source of wisdom. My coaching conversations are based on processes or models my brain has actively been involved in forming or learning but often when I speak I feel I'm hearing new ideas or understanding them in different ways.
I used to think that access to this wisdom depended on me being spiritually 'in tune', being in a good place emotionally and physically for the call. However I have had coaching conversations in less than ideal locations and when I've previously been upset and not feeling great and, when I've focused on my client, in that moment, the wisdom has been there.
I wonder what situations you have in your life that you feel your wisdom is immediately there for you? Some speak of sporting activities or being in nature, some of art, writing, dancing or handling emergencies. It might be something you've actively cultivated with yoga or mediation or something you discovered by chance.
Do you also wonder where the wisdom goes when you are not in these situations or engaged in these activities?
The answer is that it doesn't go anywhere. It is just masked by all that thinking and the feelings those thoughts conjure up.
Over valuing our brain power, focusing on it and taking on problems of increasing complexity with unknown variables, sends our heads into a spin. In our world today, so much is unknown that we feel we should understand, half told stories, incomplete explanations, problems just waiting to be resolved.
Fortunately this level of chaos and uncertainty doesn't phase our innate wisdom. For our wisdom these conditions are the raw materials of creativity.
There are ample techniques that promise to 'switch off' your overthinking so you can access more of your innate wisdom, from NLP to mindfulness. Curiously, most take us further into our thinking in order to resolve our over thinking habits and they require time and discipline.
What they miss is that you have already experienced hanging out in this wisdom. Perhaps it's been a while, perhaps you let your head talk you out of going to that place or you haven't made time. As soon as you tune in again it'll be there for you. Of course, it was there all along.
I'd love to read your views and experiences, do leave a comment below. And if you would like to explore living more from your innate wisdom, do use the green button to book an initial coaching conversation.