What do You Really Need?
What do you absolutely need to be happy and healthy?
Probably there's a level of money, comfort and success that come to mind. Maybe relationships, love and approval? You might whittle it down to food, sleep and shelter.
But then some people get huge health benefits from fasting, our bodies generally adjust after a bad patch of sleep and different people's definition of home varies widely.
As we hear from others and experience our own happy times, we attach that feeling to external things. We mistakenly think that we need our external environment to be a certain way before we can feel good. We do the same for our sadness and fears. We miss the role our mood and thinking has.
Everything we experience in our external environments comes to us via our personal
interpretation, the meaning and story we give it. So we might think of a daffodil growing in the garden as a beautiful part of nature, a triumph of spring over winter, the wrong size/shape/colour to be beautiful or a reminder that someone has not given us flowers.
Our thinking about it depends on our psychology and our mood at that time. Calculating the
paths your thinking could take would be an algorithm way ahead of anything I can imagine
so it's good news that we don't have to figure that out!
We don't need to manage or control it, that would just add more thinking to the equation. We just need to realise that our thoughts are coming from and through us, not from the outside world. That daffodil has no power over us!
Underneath that thinking, however rigid, sticky or polarised, we have innate wellbeing. We already are happy. It is our natural state.
There is a freedom to knowing that we have far less absolute, rigid needs than we sometimes
think. When we see those those thoughts of need and lack, and their accompanying feelings of fear, anger and sadness, are made by us and fluctuate with our mood, we are free to have fresh thoughts, to see things differently.
We are back to being life explorers and adventurers rather than donkeys following the carrot suspended in front of us. We have new ideas of directions to take, people to connect with and cool things to do, and all this helps us to create more of the external environment we enjoy.