This is Me!
I’ve just updated my profile pictures after a fun photo shoot with photographer Caitlin Lock. It was important to me that our location was Hastings Seafront. It’s not that I do much coaching on the beach, (I have tried but the ever-present wind is rather noisy!) just that the sea is the backdrop to most of my coaching sessions. If you’ve seen my recent social media videos you might have spotted it!
I really enjoyed Caitlin’s relaxed style and encouragement. Afterwards, I reflected on the new direction I have found in my coaching practice and the mid-life phase I've moved into and the ‘This is Me’ soundtrack ran through my head.
My previous pictures were quite a few years out of date, I delayed updating them as they were taken at a very happy time in flattering light on a beautiful day. For a while I’d been thinking I’d have more taken ‘soon’, when I lost some weight, had clear skin & had the perfect wardrobe.
I should have known better as I’ve seen this in many clients. Particularly when they consider 'getting out there' to promote their business. Beware it’s a trap! And it keeps you stuck and recycling some old and unhelpful thinking.
The first problem with waiting for conditions to be 'right' is that we can not predict the future. We may indeed loose weight, discover the secret to clear skin and find the perfect outfit within days or the opposite could happen. We might do all we can to be fit and healthy but we are not in control, life might have other plans. We may be waiting a very long time for the right conditions to arise.
Another problem is the great importance we give to our personal thoughts. We think all sorts of things about how we look and this has little to do with how others see us or interpret the image we are trying to convey. It’s widely reported that coaching clients are not looking for ‘perfect’ coaches, our humanness is attractive. We take our personal thinking to heart, with all the accompanying feelings and that just isn't helpful.
The third problem is that the thing we’re putting off ‘until conditions are right’ is probably going to be instrumental in getting a fresh perspective on those right conditions. Updating my photos brought me ‘face to face’ with my ageing process and, in turn, to a new level of self acceptance and love. I have the freedom to tune into what will nurture my body today without imposing standards based on the me of the past or my perception of social expectations.
So next time you find yourself putting something off until ................... think again! Are those conditions really necessary? Perhaps that something would be a great thing to do today?
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