The Importance of Hats

The Importance of Hats

Living by the sea, the wind is a constant companion.  Rain or shine, the vital question of the day is what the wind is up to.  Is it coming in from the sea making our sun room bunting sway or perhaps from the north blowing odd bits and pieces down the road.  

 With my partner Lawrence on New Year's Day 2017

With my partner Lawrence on New Year's Day 2017

Even if it appears still when we look out at the sea, our eyes can be deceived. And even if it appears okay when we step out, a nippy breeze can come from nowhere.

It might be different for those who are hardened to the wind.  Perhaps their ears are different?  Mine are horribly uncomfortable with the wind whistling in them.

In coaching terms, the wind is a Toleration for me.  Something I put up with to live in the coastal community I love.  Tolerations are smallish problems, not significant enough to demand immediate attention.  You might even think you 'should' be able to ignore them but, whilst they might fad into the background, they refuse to disappear.   

I could say 'I wish It wasn't windy here' or 'I wish my ears weren't so sensitive'. But both of these statements are arguing with reality.  Try as I might, I can't change the wind!

What I can change is my response to the wind, and my response comes in the shape of a hat. I have come to the conclusion, when I go out, the question isn't whether to wear a hat but which one.

The simple hat makes the difference between me enjoying a walk along the front or it being utter punishment.  Transforming the Toleration into joy.  I also like wearing hats. I can hide 'bad hair' and occasionally protect myself from the sun whilst expressing my mood and personality. 

A little investment in a hat and in developing the habit to wear it makes this seaside lifestyle possible.  

When we have Tolerations in our lives, like bad traffic on our commute, broken kitchen appliances or clothes that don't fit, they drain our energy.  We might have stopped consciously noticing them but that doesn't mean they're not effecting us.

To be at our full strength, we need to find a solution, and the best solutions are ones that address a number of Tolerations in one go.  A pivotal solution.

For example, if you are addressing a stressful commute, unpredictable working hours and a lack of fulfillment, changing your job or becoming Self-Employed might be the pivotal solution. 

When you are making plans for the future, it is good to identify potential Tolerations.  They are quite often the niggly things that mean the plan doesn't feel quite right.  Once you identify them and address them fully, they need not hold you back and they can even give your plan the creative edge.

For example, someone wanting to go freelance but who hates working alone and is struggling to convert space in their home, might get involved in sharing office space. No only does this address their Tolerations but it also leads to collaborations resulting in new business development.  

Over to you now....
What Tolerations are you experiencing in your life?
Could any be keeping you stuck from pursuing your plans?  
Are there any Pivotal solutions you can implement to address a bunch of them?

I'd love to hear your experiences in the comments section below......   

 

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