How Time Management Looks to Me Now

The promise is seductive.  Master time and you can fit more good stuff in your life, more happy moments with friends and family.  Master time and you will be more productive in your work, your career or business will skyrocket as your colleagues look on in admiration and the money floods in.  Master time and show how focused, resourceful, disciplined and on top of life you are, no laziness, procrastination or wasteful vices here!

Recognise any of that?  And how is your time management going?  This is how my view of time management has changed and how it looks to me now...

Who is On Your Team?

This video is for anyone who considers themselves independent and/or has their own business.

Whether you see independence as empowering or something thrust upon you, you are missing something!

We all rely on others for our survival and to thrive in life and in business.  We are part of a web of teams with different roles and contributions…

Who is Your Coach?

Throughout time, we have sought out people who help us learn.  Not just teachers for academic studies but those who have mastered a particular craft/business who train their apprentices.  Family members who pass on their skills and understanding.  Religious leaders community leaders, elders and healers who explain how life works and provide counsel.

Even if you have not had a formal coaching relationship, you most probably know who you would go to….

This is Me!

I really enjoyed the photographer Caitlin’s relaxed style and encouragement.  Afterwards, I reflected on the new direction I have found in my coaching practice and the mid-life phase I've moved into and the ‘This is Me’ soundtrack ran through my head….

Never Cut a Tree Down in The Winter Time

Never cut a tree down in the winter time.
Never make a negative decision in the low time.
Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods.
Wait.  Be patient.
The storm will pass.
The Spring will come

This Steve Jobs quote was shared widely on Facebook recently.  Perhaps because Spring has finally made an appearance in the UK but also because we recognise this as truth.  We do not make our best decisions when we are in our worst moods....

What do You Really Need?

What do you absolutely need to be happy and healthy?  

Food, sleep and shelter might be the basics that spring to mind.  

But then some people get huge health benefits from fasting, our bodies generally adjust after a bad patch of sleep and different people's definition of home varies widely.

As we hear from others and experience our own happy times, we attach that feeling......

It’s Personal but don’t take it Personally

Whether you’re looking for people to engage with you to build your reputation and get promoted, to find a potential date, to sign up to your cause or to enroll clients or customers, getting the attention of those who are on the same wavelength involves showing you’re a real person.  You need to reveal your personal passions and quirks, tell your story, express how you feel and highlight what’s different about you.

Without this personal expression....

Are You An Overthinker?

The first time I heard the term Overthinker was when I went for an alternative health scan.  Although I could tell from the tone of the practitioner's voice it wasn't a complement, I was quietly proud.  Thinking things through, figuring out problems, asking pertinent questions, researching and connecting information to get the big picture, these are good attributes, aren't they?...

Are You Hanging Out With The Right People?

Should I ditch my struggling friends and hang out with the super happy and ultra successful so their success rubs off on me?

I have certainly heard this strategy recommended by different teachers over the years.

If you are hanging out with people who are struggling to make ends meet and whose conversation revolves around moaning and criticising, it can be exhausting. You can get swept up in this way of thinking and adopt it as your own. Not only does this allow....

Your Priorities & Passions for 2018

The sun is rising on a New Year.  We have the energy of New Beginnings.  There's even Chinese New Year coming if you need more impetus for a fresh start!

After the high of the holidays and the low of blue Monday have settled, where does this new year find you?  What are you celebrating and what are you looking to create in your life?

Now Verses Future

Whilst we know that life can only be lived in the present, moment by moment, we also understand each of those moments is an investment in our future- some things take many moments of action and focus before they take shape.  So how do we navigate gracefully between today and tomorrow?

'Big Me', 'Small Me'

This is not a post about body shape, inflating yourself with positivity or your inner child (despite the picture!).  Here I’m talking about 2 contrasting states, ways of being in the world, and how they feel on the inside.

On the one hand ‘Small Me’ feels contracted, wounded, stressed, any number of negative emotions -sadness, anger, fear- are circulating  and my mind is full of stories of being a victim, judgments about others, myself and the world, remembering past hurts and worrying about future problems....

 

Why Self Employed Pioneers Need to Be Selective

“I need to select my target market.  Are you mad?  I’m newly Self Employed.  I need customers.  I’m relying on this income.  I’ll sell to anyone who’s buying!”

Even if they’re not as direct as this, it’s the response I get most often when I talk about selecting customers.  (Here I’ll use customers to refer to both customers and clients). Although it can seem counter intuitive, now, more than ever, not being selective will hold you back....

How is Your Relationship with Money?

One of the most important relationships we have in our lives is the one we have with money.  Feelings of desire, love, happiness, fear, greed, shame and envy all seem to come from notes and coins.  But how can this be when money is a man made concept?  Logically we know money doesn't have any personal feelings about us but we continue to see our happiness and wellbeing as linked to money.....