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[Life Coach Directory Article] Passion and Profits

When we are engaged with our passions, it feels good. We find our natural gifts and we are motivated to do more and learn more.

People pick up on it. It is attractive.

However, it is a widely held belief that we must sacrifice our passions in order to earn good money and create the lifestyle we desire within our society….

The Quest for Purpose

In July 2002 in a lush, tropical Balinese forest, I sat with a group of meditators in a large comfortable bamboo summer house.  Imagine crisp linens and colonial luxury meets nature, warmth and creative building.

We had been guided in meditation, by our wonderful teacher Ray Baskerville, for what seemed like hours.   (If I had been somewhere less hospitable I would probably have wandered off.)  Finally we were led into a meeting with our Divine.  We were encouraged to ask a question….

Are Labels Useful?

What labels do you identify with?  I'm thinking about labels to do with our stage of life, sexuality or location,  our roles, a diagnosis, interest or personality type.

Personally I’ve been identifying with perimenopause and menopause and professionally I’ve been exploring the differences between thinking of ourselves as Self Employed rather than as a business owner, entrepreneur or solopreneur.

We’ve all had the experience of discovering that there’s a label that applies to us…

Peace of Mind- Anytime, Anywhere

For most, meditation is a practice, sometimes linked to religious or spiritual teachings which allows them to quieten their thinking and experience more peace and contentment.  

The methods of quietening thinking are usually to focus on one thing, like your breathing, a flame, chanting or a mantra and, when you get distracted, to gently bring your mind back to the task in hand.

But what if meditation isn’t for me? Is it worth struggling to do a daily practice or is there another option?

How Time Management Looks to Me Now

The promise is seductive.  Master time and you can fit more good stuff in your life, more happy moments with friends and family.  Master time and you will be more productive in your work, your career or business will skyrocket as your colleagues look on in admiration and the money floods in.  Master time and show how focused, resourceful, disciplined and on top of life you are, no laziness, procrastination or wasteful vices here!

Recognise any of that?  And how is your time management going?  This is how my view of time management has changed and how it looks to me now...

This is Me!

I really enjoyed the photographer Caitlin’s relaxed style and encouragement.  Afterwards, I reflected on the new direction I have found in my coaching practice and the mid-life phase I've moved into and the ‘This is Me’ soundtrack ran through my head….

Never Cut a Tree Down in The Winter Time

Never cut a tree down in the winter time.
Never make a negative decision in the low time.
Never make your most important decisions when you are in your worst moods.
Wait.  Be patient.
The storm will pass.
The Spring will come

This Steve Jobs quote was shared widely on Facebook recently.  Perhaps because Spring has finally made an appearance in the UK but also because we recognise this as truth.  We do not make our best decisions when we are in our worst moods....

What do You Really Need?

What do you absolutely need to be happy and healthy?  

Food, sleep and shelter might be the basics that spring to mind.  

But then some people get huge health benefits from fasting, our bodies generally adjust after a bad patch of sleep and different people's definition of home varies widely.

As we hear from others and experience our own happy times, we attach that feeling......

Are You An Overthinker?

The first time I heard the term Overthinker was when I went for an alternative health scan.  Although I could tell from the tone of the practitioner's voice it wasn't a complement, I was quietly proud.  Thinking things through, figuring out problems, asking pertinent questions, researching and connecting information to get the big picture, these are good attributes, aren't they?...

Now Verses Future

Whilst we know that life can only be lived in the present, moment by moment, we also understand each of those moments is an investment in our future- some things take many moments of action and focus before they take shape.  So how do we navigate gracefully between today and tomorrow?

'Big Me', 'Small Me'

This is not a post about body shape, inflating yourself with positivity or your inner child (despite the picture!).  Here I’m talking about 2 contrasting states, ways of being in the world, and how they feel on the inside.

On the one hand ‘Small Me’ feels contracted, wounded, stressed, any number of negative emotions -sadness, anger, fear- are circulating  and my mind is full of stories of being a victim, judgments about others, myself and the world, remembering past hurts and worrying about future problems....