Getting Out There

Are you waiting in the wings? Ready with a great business idea but hesitant about stepping onto the stage and putting you and your idea in the spotlight?

I speak with quite a few would be Self Employed people who are in this position, they say they are afraid to ‘get out there’.  They are holding back on publishing their website, posting on social media or attending networking events.  They don’t want the attention, criticism or fame they associate with being centre stage.  

And yet they have a great idea that will help people and they are attracted to Self Employment. 

If you are in this position, here are some ideas for moving through these stuck feelings....

Why Go Self Employed?

Do you recognise any of these reasons?

  1. I hate my boss.

  2. My job is too stressful and my working hours are too long.

  3. I spend too much time commuting/ being away from home.

  4. I no longer have any job security.

  5. I hate everything about my employment!

Getting away from employment you dislike is often the impetus for considering Self Employment.…

There Is No Right Way

In the early days of our being, we were taught that there were questions and answers and that these answers were either correct or incorrect, right or wrong.  Further, if we arrived at the answer in the way the big person who had asked the question approved of, we had done it the right way.

Stars, smiles and approval became intertwined.  Stars morphed into money, smiles to belonging and approval to relationships.  All the physical and emotional rewards of life were there for us if we could just figure out ‘the right way’....


[Life Coach Directory Article] Passion and Profits

When we are engaged with our passions, it feels good. We find our natural gifts and we are motivated to do more and learn more.

People pick up on it. It is attractive.

However, it is a widely held belief that we must sacrifice our passions in order to earn good money and create the lifestyle we desire within our society….

The Quest for Purpose

In July 2002 in a lush, tropical Balinese forest, I sat with a group of meditators in a large comfortable bamboo summer house.  Imagine crisp linens and colonial luxury meets nature, warmth and creative building.

We had been guided in meditation, by our wonderful teacher Ray Baskerville, for what seemed like hours.   (If I had been somewhere less hospitable I would probably have wandered off.)  Finally we were led into a meeting with our Divine.  We were encouraged to ask a question….

What led me into Self Employment

I hadn’t wanted to go Self Employed.

This wasn’t my dream.  I was enjoying working in a team, learning from other people, dealing with complicated projects and getting promotions and pay rises.  I was in a stable job that my Grandad approved of building a high-ish flying career.

In my early years, my mother was a Freelance Drafts woman…

Do You Believe in Transformation?

I believe in transformation.  I've seen the evidence in clients and myself moving from experiencing life as on the left to living from the place on the right.

Does this mean the sun constantly shines, we are always happy and nothing bad ever happens?  Well sorry, no!  Life still happens…

Are Labels Useful?

What labels do you identify with?  I'm thinking about labels to do with our stage of life, sexuality or location,  our roles, a diagnosis, interest or personality type.

Personally I’ve been identifying with perimenopause and menopause and professionally I’ve been exploring the differences between thinking of ourselves as Self Employed rather than as a business owner, entrepreneur or solopreneur.

We’ve all had the experience of discovering that there’s a label that applies to us…

Peace of Mind- Anytime, Anywhere

For most, meditation is a practice, sometimes linked to religious or spiritual teachings which allows them to quieten their thinking and experience more peace and contentment.  

The methods of quietening thinking are usually to focus on one thing, like your breathing, a flame, chanting or a mantra and, when you get distracted, to gently bring your mind back to the task in hand.

But what if meditation isn’t for me? Is it worth struggling to do a daily practice or is there another option?

How Time Management Looks to Me Now

The promise is seductive.  Master time and you can fit more good stuff in your life, more happy moments with friends and family.  Master time and you will be more productive in your work, your career or business will skyrocket as your colleagues look on in admiration and the money floods in.  Master time and show how focused, resourceful, disciplined and on top of life you are, no laziness, procrastination or wasteful vices here!

Recognise any of that?  And how is your time management going?  This is how my view of time management has changed and how it looks to me now...

Who is On Your Team?

This video is for anyone who considers themselves independent and/or has their own business.

Whether you see independence as empowering or something thrust upon you, you are missing something!

We all rely on others for our survival and to thrive in life and in business.  We are part of a web of teams with different roles and contributions…

Who is Your Coach?

Throughout time, we have sought out people who help us learn.  Not just teachers for academic studies but those who have mastered a particular craft/business who train their apprentices.  Family members who pass on their skills and understanding.  Religious leaders community leaders, elders and healers who explain how life works and provide counsel.

Even if you have not had a formal coaching relationship, you most probably know who you would go to….

This is Me!

I really enjoyed the photographer Caitlin’s relaxed style and encouragement.  Afterwards, I reflected on the new direction I have found in my coaching practice and the mid-life phase I've moved into and the ‘This is Me’ soundtrack ran through my head….